A Defining Moment

(This is a repost from awhile ago.  It's the point that I came to after all the pain of the worst summer I ever had, 2016.  But if this is where all that pain led me to, then I don't regret it.  You'll see what I mean.  The reason I am reposting it here on my Anti-Calvinism blog is because it shows one reason why I deeply love the Lord and am very concerned about properly representing Him to people who are hurting.  Calvinism misrepresents God terribly.  It turns God into a God who can't be trusted, who isn't truly loving, who isn't fair or righteous or just, who is a liar, etc.  Who could possibly want a relationship with a God like that!?!  But my God - the God and Jesus I have come to know and love, even when life is hard - is a God who can be trusted!  And that's why I am taking such a strong stand for the God of the Bible, who is most definitely not the God of Calvinism.  If you have trouble trusting God, it might not be God you don't trust.  It might just be the Calvinist misrepresentation of God you have so much trouble trusting.  Because the Calvinist God is an irrational, unpredictable, untrustworthy, unjust Monster!  Never let Calvinists convince you that their God is the God of the Bible!)


(This was the pinnacle moment of my 2016 summer, where all that pain led up to, as far as my faith was concerned.  And I guess if this is where all that pain led to, then I don't regret it.  You'll see what I mean.)


Have you ever been smacked upside the head by the heaviest questions you could ever ask yourself, knowing that the answers would define your future and determine the direction of your faith thereafter? ...

During the worst summer I ever had - the summer of 2016, the year that broke me (written about here) - I was in such despair that I could barely get out of bed.  I was afraid of everything - afraid of having another panic attack, afraid that moving around would make me throw up, afraid that I would lose my mind and end up in the hospital, afraid that I wouldn't get help from the hospital and that I would succumb to crippling anxiety, afraid of talking to others, afraid of not talking it out, afraid my mother would kill herself, afraid she would die heartbroken and alone, etc.

I was so broken and felt so hopeless.  And while I knew that I wouldn't hurt myself, I also knew that I was at a really bad point.  (And let's just say that's an understatement.)  

There was a time during that summer when I wanted to give up my faith.  I really wanted to be able to be done with it, to not believe in God anymore.  I actually kinda envied those who didn't have faith, who were "in charge" of their lives, not waiting on some other Being to handle things for them, to fix things that were broken, taking His sweet time.  It hurt me deeply to be waiting on Someone who didn't seem to be coming through for me, who didn't seem to be listening, who allowed such pain.

As I was struggling with all of this during that summer, I was constantly listening to the songs of The City Harmonic.  (I mention them so much because they kept me and my faith afloat when I was drowning in despair.  Thank you, City Harmonic!  Thank you!  See more of their songs in the post "My 'When Anxiety Strikes' Playlist.")

And I remember working in the garden one day, listening to their music on my MP3 player as a gentle breeze rustled the cucumber leaves.  The song "My Jesus, I Love Thee" was on.  

And as I went about picking vegetables and cleaning up dead leaves, a line from that song hit me so hard that I had to stop.

"I love Thee (Jesus) in life.  I will love Thee in death." 

That line cut through all my preoccupied thoughts, all the fuzziness in my head.  And I stopped ... and stood there ... and asked myself a question I had never considered before.  The question to end all questions. 


"If my life ended this summer (not that I wanted to die, just that I didn't want to be here on earth anymore), I would die as a Christian, as a follower of Jesus, claiming that He was the only way to heaven.  All other options would be closed to me, the chance to change my mind.  Is the Christian faith really the one I want to die in?  Is Jesus really the one I want to die for, that I want to commit my soul to, that I would be willing to cling to in my last breath?"


As I stood there alone that day among the vegetables and the gentle breeze, I let the weight of that question press down on me.  The all-important magnitude of it.  The "no turning back once this question is answered" heaviness.  The sense of "And now we find out what's really in your soul, the trueness of your faith."

Is Jesus really the one I want to cling to in my last breath?

I imagined dying, using my last breath to say "I still believe in Jesus."  I imagined waking up in eternity, finding out if I had it wrong or right.  

Did I truly believe in Jesus with every fiber of my being?  Enough to say, "I still believe," even when everything felt like it was going wrong?  Could I say, "I will love Thee in death"?  

In death!  

Was I willing to die in this faith?

I paused for a moment, thought of everything that led me to this point.  Of all the things I had been through with God.  Of all the supernatural things I'd experienced.  Of all the things I had heard and read and learned.  Of the Word that I have explored for years and years.  

Did it all make sense?  Did it really point to God, to Jesus?  Did it hold together?  Could I truly plant my feet on it?  My soul?  My eternity?  Would it hold me up?



"Yes!!!  Absolutely, yes!!!"



Beyond a shadow of a doubt, Jesus is the only option for me.  The Way.  The Truth.  And the Life.  

He is the answer to all our questions.  He is our salvation, the only way to eternal life.  (Do you know of any other God who loves His creation enough to die for their sins?  Just so they can spend eternity with Him in paradise?) 

Everything else in life may break down around us, but Jesus will never let us down.  He is the only one worth clinging to, all the way till the end.




Before that moment in the garden, I always found it uncomfortable to say stuff like "I love Jesus."  It sounded mushy, goofy, strange.  I mean, yes, I did love Jesus, but it was weird, trying to sound sincere saying you "love" someone you never actually met.  It was a bit too awkward for me.  Overly emotional.  Gooey sentimentality.

But after that moment ... after that moment of deeply contemplating if I believed in Him enough to die for Him, of thinking about all He's done for me and what He truly means to me and how I can never turn my back on Him ... I can now boldly, sincerely, with all my heart, say "I truly, deeply love Jesus." 

And I know now that with my last breath, whenever that day comes, I can confidently say, "I believe!  And I will love Jesus with all my heart, to the very end!"

I know I chose rightly!

Have you?

We all stake our souls and bet our eternities on something.  What is your faith in?  Where are you headed?  What are you counting on to save you?

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